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It is in the eye of the beholder. We mean by this a pig does not see the flower bed as a thing of beauty, but a source of food. We do not share much with the pig. It forces the comparison though. If we see it as beautiful then ask of its provenance. Where did it get the beauty? Make a list in your mind of things you find beautiful and explore why you think it is beautiful. Listen to the music, and if it is beautiful find out where it came from, and ask if it is the individual sounds, or the combination of notes and timing and melodies and harmonies. Try to compose it. Stick at it until you duplicate it, or come up with a similar sound. If you fail to produce anything, admit is requires a focus or talent you do not have, and marvel at those who have it. Then ask where did they get it.

The answer will usually be, after much sweat and tears. They honed their creative skills. Practice over and over and build the expertise. Then enjoy what you can produce. If you know another way than please share, for what we all want to do, is produce something beautiful.

How do we marshal our thoughts?

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With great precision. Focus is what it takes. Move cautiously from one point to the next building on what you have established is true. Ask the right questions, the ones that lead to something real. A good starting point is what we see all around that we can touch and know and trust. The can be assumptions in this and everything must be tested against what is logical and trustworthy. Test it and move on. There will be other tests as you progress and you may need to revisit something you resolved you could trust to be true. But this does not need a complete turn-around, just a shift of direction. Adjust and move forward again. You gather momentum and confidence, and soon you are making strides in the right direction.

Avoid being bogged down in the detail, for this will sap your energy. Discovery is the name of the game, and detail will require you to answer everything. This is not necessary. You just need to be sure the direction is right. If it was easy, everyone would do it.

This is what we do for our own peace of mind. This is who we are, and who we want to be.


Do not lose the joy

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If all the looking and striving is at the expense of joy, as it may easily be for the scientist whose hypothesis gobbles up all his time and energy, or the miner who spends so much of his life chasing a dream and never quite reaching the goal. We have a plan that includes laughter and friendship and family and enjoyment. Pursuing the dream at the expense of these necessary things is part of the darkness. We can do better than that. The man who claims wealth is the goal and these other things are what it costs is not a smart man, just a stubborn and selfish one. He lacks balance. He is burdened down with baggage he does not need to carry. Work out how to do it without carrying everything on your shoulders. Find a safe place to put it down, and move forward with what you need to complete the next task.

There are two rules that apply in life that if we ignore we will be hampered. Number one is; be honest, for anything less is a lie and will mislead us. The other is; do not ignore the obvious. The temptation to ignore the obvious is the most difficult to observe, because it goes to our prejudice, or the baggage we cannot let go. Honesty is the key then, because we look at everything to see if it is true. One of the things honesty insists on, we need to realize we are severely limited. Our brains are large and can soar to great heights, but time to explore everything is not enough. This is what a limit is and it means we need to marshal our thoughts.

We do not want darkness


We pride ourselves with having a plan, unlike the airheads who do not care. It is important to know what we are doing and where we are going. Time is against us because it passes quickly, and a real strategy for getting something done involves a long time. Work out who we are and what we want from life. It is usually family home and garden, children and grandchildren. And this is enough to fill one life time. The energetic take on music in one of its many forms or teaching or entertainment, and then there are many occupations. But these allow you to grow and survive. They do not fill in details of why. They are more how and when. We need to get to the why.

How do we do this and have we got time. We need to make time for this because we want to see through the darkness. We can ignore it, and many do, but it is terribly sad at the end when there is nothing there, just resigned disappointment. It can be different, and we must have a way to resolve the big questions. We can follow the crowd, as many believe they have the answers, or we can stand apart from the crowd and have a reasoned view. Many reach the too hard stage and settle for a dusk like dark fog, satisfying themselves of progress. But a fog is still dark, and the view is obscure. We know what day and light is, and it is not wrong to want that clarity.

We know the world offers clarity. It screams out the answers are there to be found. But it also makes it clear that knowing the answers that few come to, involves effort. We will make the time for this is important. We have the intelligence and drive to put in the extra. We want it like the miner wants hidden treasure, in an eccentric and obsessive way.

A good argument

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There is nothing wrong with a good argument. It can be exhilarating. You must marshal your forces though. Get a list of the most unanswerable questions, and fire them off one at a time in the gentlest way you can. Try not to spray them around like a scatter gun, you might slay your opponent, and that is not what you want to do. Not immediately anyway. You want to see how they manage under fire. Winning is not the answer. Persuading is much better. You want to know what they have in the way of ammunition because this has become a quest, a challenge where you arrive at your goal of knowing.

Knowing is a nice place to be. There is only light, and no darkness. You have dispelled darkness. But you are not there yet. All you have done is stopped lying. The quest will go on for some time.

Why do we do it? Darkness is terrifying, you cannot see where you are, or where you need to go. Carry a torch with a long life battery because you will need it. Your torch is an open and enquiring mind. You are not a part of the dark: you are trying to find your way in the dark. Others do not mind darkness and are willing to bump into each other as they slowly feel their way. Imagine having light all round and moving quickly